Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Calm broken by new gun violence Tues Aug 26, 2008

If you remember yesterday I told you the violence had stopped in my block.

Well, around 9: 0 clock last night. I heard shooting. and 5 minutes later, there were 20 police cars on my block. Police cars had blocked off the street. They had lights flashing up and down the street. I new some one had gotten hurt. But I was not leaving my house to see.

Today I went down the block to see if any one had been hurt. I was told that a gang of boys came to this boys house and shot him. Then, they ran before the police could catch them. I do not know if the police made any arrest. But this time the police came in force and sealed off the hold block.

They were on our block about 4 hours, combing the neighborhoods for the suspects. The boy was taken to the hospital. I hope he will be alright.

Thank You Chicago police.

Living here is like living in a war zone!

Thank You
Carmen

Monday, August 25, 2008

A pause in the neighborhood violence, Mon Aug 25, 2008

We have not seen any violence in my block lately. But it's still happening in my community. School is starting and I am so happy. Maybe it will help to keep the kids from hanging out all night.

I see the police coming around more offen. Hopefully this means they are trying to do more to keep the community safe. I do not want to move from My home, I have lived here 18 years and I love my home. Keeping the community safe is not going to work unless the community and the police work together. When I see a crime being commited I call the police and I am so happy they show up.

I know police officers have a hard job. They are out numbed when it comes to fighting crime.

They have families and don't want to get killed. Just like with any other job there are good police officers and bad police officers. The good ones take their jobs seriously and I praise them for putting their life on the line. The bad ones think they are above the law. They drink on the job and kill people and think they should get away with it. Police commissioner, get rid of these bad apples and stop protecting them. When we see video's of police officers beating up helpless female citizen, how can the police protect this kind of person? There are organizations in our neighborhood that are trying to make a difference.

If we all work together we will make a difference

Thank You
Carmen

Sunday, August 24, 2008

It all starts with respect Sun Aug 24, 2008

Let me tell you a story. A couple of years ago my husband and I went to Texas for my grandson's birthday. We stayed at a hotel that was nice but not expensive and not too far from stores and restaurants. Every place we went the people were so nice. Anything we asked them to do, they were happy to do it. They treated us like royalty.

Yesterday I went to buy some earings at Ford City. I asked the lady who was talking to her friend if they had "hoop earings." She said yes, and pointed "over there." She could not stop talking to her friend to help me. This is called customer service. So I walked away. I went to another store and the young man was glad to help me. I bought too pairs of earings.

I went to the Jewel in my neighborhood a year ago and complained about a problem at the deli counter. I talked to the manager not once, but twice and he promised to get the problem fixed.

To this day the problem still exist. I don't go there any more. If we want things to be nice, we need to stop accepting "any old thing."

When I spend my money, I want good service. I drive out of my neighborhood, though, to get the service I want. I went to the bank during my lunch and tried to get in the vault. No one ever came to help me. I had to take my money out of that bank.

If you don't get the service you expect you should spend your money else where.

Thank You
Carmen

Are we listening to our children? Sat Aug 23, 2008

Did you know from the time your sweet little baby is born, he lets you know what he needs. He cries, to tell you he needs you to hold him and love him. He cries to let you know he needs you to feed him and change his diaper. As he starts to talk he say hold me, read to me. As he grows up and starts to walk, he says I need you to support me. I need your encouragement.

When your child starts to school he says help me to learn. Help me with math. All through your child's life he says give me, give me, give me and that is a good thing. This will be very important as your child grows in to man hood. He has the confidence he needs to be successful.

And when your child's becomes a teen he is saying be a good roll model, discipline me even thought he may act like he doesn't want you to.

And when you child becomes an adult, its your job to let go. Gently push him out the nest. Fly away. You can do it. Go out and see the world. Go to college, find you a mate. Get married and have babies so we can become grandparents. And then the circle starts all over again. With him!

Thank You
Carmen

Friday, August 22, 2008

Why do we vote? Fri Aug 22, 2008

Why do we vote? We vote because we want the candate we are voting for
to do the very best job they can, for all the people. When they run for office they Promise us they will do their best. But when we fine out that person is not doing the job they promised to do, We have the power to get rid of them.

We must understand that no one gives us anything. We work hard every day.Pay our taxes so we can have good schools, health care and safe community. We always hear them say they don't have enough money for the needs of the people. But they have enough money to give themselves raises. Why are these people still in office. This is the time to turn things around. Maybe they have forgotten what their job is. To service the people, not them selves. And our job is to make sure they do. They will do what we allow them to. We are all to blame for the way the world is today. We must let the politicians know that we are not going to allow them to do anything they want. And we can do that with our votes

Thank You
Carmen

Saggin pants and meaning used by gangs Thurs Aug 21, 2008

Parents,are you aware of the history behind wearing saggin pants?

Centuries ago slave owner demoralized their blackmen, by forbidding them to wear a belts. and if you are busy holding up your pants it's harder for you to run. In addition, men in prison wore their pants low when they were spoken for. They also were not allowed to were belts to keep
them from committing suicide. So you see their is nothing good about saggin pants.

Parents these are our son's let them know this is not cool. Let them know this practice has roots to slavery and is connection to prison life. let them know that being a real man can be as easy as pulling up their pants. And as their parent you will not allow them to look like a slave.

Parent your kids learn right and wrong from you. They lean morals, dignity and leadership
from the most important people in their lives. You!

Most of our African American men are in jail or dead.

Thank You
Carmen

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Reclaiming your neighborhood Aug 20, 2008

Here is something you should know. Their is a Organization called Iman. It means Inner City Muslim Action Network. It is located at 2744 west 63 street. I wanted to fine out what they did. I was very surprised. They have a food pantry, they have health care. they teach career development. they teach Spanish classes and many other services free.They come in to a community fine out what the problems are and Try to come up with solutions. Even though I had never heard of Imans they have been around for 10 years.They work with the community.

They are having a rally at Navy pier September 6, 2008 if you would like to be apart
of the rally. Please call 773-434-4628 for more information.We would love to see you their. This could be the answer we have been waiting for.

Its about reclaiming the family and saving out kids

Thank You
Carmen

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Gangs are our children, Tuesday August 19, 2008

When we talk about gang bangers we are usually talking about boys. But what about our sweet little daughters.We would not think that our little girls are out there rolling around on the ground beating up other kids. Most fights between girls are because of a boy.

If a girl has a boy friend that is in a gang, Then she becomes a gang member too.This is how our kids learn to solve problems.

Maybe our world leaders are teaching our kids that if you don't like what some one is doing, have a war and kill other human beings. This is the way our leaders handle their problems. When parents have fights, what is that telling our kids? We are telling them this is the way to solve problems. Kids learn from what they see and hear.

Children are born into this world and they don't know anything. They learn from their parents. They learn from what they see and hear. No one said it would be easy raising
a child. Because it is a full time job.The most important thing you can do is to give them the best chance in life that you can.

Thank You
Carmen

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Problems in the US and foreign countries Monday Aug 18, 2008

I watch the specials on TV to see what is happening around the world and I felt ashamed that I am complaining about what is happening in Chicago. When in the Congo hundreds of women are being gang raped every day. As old as 75 and as young as 6. People in China are not allowed to complain about not having water for their crops, because water is needed for the Olympic. New Orleans where so many people died because no one would help them. I never though that could happen, but it did.

We put people in office but we do not hold them accountable .When we pay our taxes we expect all our children to have good schools. Do all the children have good schools?

No.

When we pay our taxes we expect all our people to have health care. Do all our people have health care?.

No.

What we have is sex, drugs and rock and roll.
Very slowly we are being controled and manipulated. Wake up!

Money and Power. It Controls what people watch, controlling what people know, controlling what people think, and making sure there is fear, to keep them from complaining.

We, the people should have the control.

Thank You
Carmen

Monday, August 18, 2008

Chicago Olympics -- How about fight crime? SUn Aug 17, 2008

The City is making all kinds of preparation for the Olympic in 2016.D oes that mean the City will be cleaning up some of the crime in our city, or just hiring more police officers just to guard the people that come to the Olympic?

I was told that minors have certain rights. Minor don't pay bills, they don't work, What about the tax payers? minors should not be aloud to destroy property and not be held accountable ... When they break in to your garage, break your car window ,guess who has to pay?

Seniors live on a fixed income. Where do we get the money from? Maybe from the minors parents that cause the problems. If I hit a kid I am held responsible. If they hit me I am held responsible. Why ?

Pleases give us a brake.

Thank You
Carmen

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Burying our heads in the sand, Sat Aug 16, 2008

Some say, "as long as the gangs don't hurt me and my family."

We seem to be comfortable with violence,as long as it does not happen to me and my kids. It is not me and mine. Its us and ours.

All the kids are our kids. We are all in this together.

We tell our selves. I am one person, what can I do?.One person can't make a different. But one person can make a different. I live next door to an abandoned building I started cutting the grass and picking up paper on the abandoned property.I called the police and had the property boarded up, this took four years. Now my neighbors cut the grass and pickup paper to. Because we are all in this together.

If you take that first step ,some one else may make a step. And then their are two. Take another step, maybe some one else may make a step, then their are three.

When our kids leave the house. Do we know if they will come back safe, or will they kill or be killed.

Something to think about.

Thank You
Carmen

Friday, August 15, 2008

Safety at every level is needed Fri Aug 15, 2008

Do you ever see people going though your garbage can, watching you leave and come home.

Watching kids go to school? Well these are professionals.

They go through your garbage and get your mail, they watch you when you leave home.

They know when your kids go to school. They know every thing about your life. Because they are professional criminals. They steal your identity, they break in your house, and they abduct your kids. Here are a few suggestion: Get security gates, keep your mail box locked, shred all you mail, Get security camera, make sure your kids go to school with other kids. Never let them go to school late by them selves. Remember the criminal are always watching for an opportunity.The professional criminals never take days off. They are always on the job. That is why they are so good at what they do.

This is a different world than the one you grew up in.

Being informed helps to keep you and your family safe.

Thank You
Carmen

Don't let fear stop your dreams, Thurs Aug 14, 2008

Have you ever wondered why you did not become a great singer, or a great dancer. You know you sing as good as Beyonce, and dance as good as Micheal. What I came up with is fear. Most people have a fear of success. If we take a chance and go for our dream it might happen,then what? Fear sets in and we stop trying.

Life is strange that way.

When I started writing about Living in a war zone, I had that fear. I said I can't do this, my writing skills are not good at all, I don't know what to talk about, they might not like me. With the support of my family, and a very good friend, here I am.

I hope you do not let the fear of success keep you from living your dreams.

You might try something and fail, but keep trying and you will succeed.

Thank You
Carmen

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Guns don't kill ... Wed August 12, 2008

In one of my articles, I told you about my friend getting held up at the store where she works. I stopped by to see if she was OK. She said that one of the robbers had a gun to her side. He told her that if she moved, she would be shot in the face. Now every time she thinks about what happened she starts to cry. She said she cannot sleep at night.

Another friend called me to tell me her 50 year old brother was shot and killed by gun violence. I hear stories like this all the time.

In some communities their is very little violence. The police come when they are called.

The city of Chicago is good at telling us what to do about violence. Help the police. Go to the CAP meetings. March for gun control.

But, nothing changes.

Even though the city does not want to take responsibility for the violence in our community they are part to blame.

Why do we need to force the city to protect its citizens

I am all for gun control. But guns don't kill people. People kill people .

Criminals just don't turn in their guns.

Thank You
Carmen

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Life was safer when I was growing up Tuesday August 11, 2008

I remember when I was a kid, all the fun we had, we wouldn't get beat up, for being in the wrong neighborhood. We wouldn't get our clothes stolen at school, we wouldn't get shot down on the way home. What happened to the good old days.?

Do you think about going out of your way to help some one, visit some one sick, work in your neighborhood or church? But then talk your self out of it. Well I have done it several times.There are days I don't want to get out of bed. But It is important to me to accomplish something everyday.

I am so blessed to have this opportunity to express my opinions. It helps me to cope with all the things African Americans go through. It makes me have hope that I can make a different .
To all the people responsible for this great opportunity, Thank You from my heart.

Thank You
Carmen

Monday, August 11, 2008

Store gets hit by robbers Monday August 11, 2008

It seems as though every time I leave the house I hear story's of gang violence.

I went to visit a friend , who lived on seventy ninth and Loomis, she was telling me about the gangs shooting up her neighborhood. On my way home I saw a police car on the side walk in front of a store at sixty third and Troy, where one of my friends worked.

I stopped to see if there was anything wrong. The store was closed. I asked the police officer if any one was hurt. He said the store was robbed, but no one was hurt.

When you complain they want to say you are a troublemaker. Just because you don't want to live in fear.

Thank You
Carmen

Sunday, August 10, 2008

Educate your children, Sunday Aug. 10, 2008

I was watching T.V and I saw this program called the baby borrower, it was very interesting. What it did, was let kids fine out the consequences of their actions this program helped kids to realize they were not ready to become parents. Their should be a work shop in all school.

Do you talk about sex with your kids?

If you don't you need to start, because they might know more than you. Sex is a natural part of life.Kids need to know the consequences and you should be the one to tell them. Make sure they know it only takes one time of unprotected sex to get pregnant. I wish kids would Wait until they were adults, that's not going to happen. but Its not impossible .

Thank You
Carmen

Saturday, August 9, 2008

A breath of fresh air this week Saturday Aug 9, 2008

Today I heard something I had not heard in two weeks.Since the four days of violence in my neighborhood stopped. There were children out side playing, jumping rope and playing ball .

School will be starting soon and some of our leaders think telling parents to keep their kids out of schools, is a way to get more funding. These leaders need to come up with a better solution. Our kids should not be put in the middle of a political battle.That's the problem now ,our kids have no education. They need to go to school all year round.

Education is one of the most important things in life. If a kid cannot read and write they have no future. They can't get a drivers license, they can't get a job, they can't pay bills.

Some education is better than no education at all.

Thank You

Carmen

Friday, August 8, 2008

Arson in a nearby alley Friday Aug. 8, 2008

I had been in the house for a couple of days because of the heat. When I went out, I saw my neighbor and he started telling me that someone set a car on fire in the alley behind his house and part of his garage was burned.

Three weeks ago some one broke into his garage. A month ago his car was sitting in front of his house parked, and some one ran into his car and left the scene. My other neighbor told me some one jumped over his fence. And he happen to be coming out his back door, he asked the man what he wanted? and and the man jumped back over the fence.

I told my neighbor please be carefully I don't want you to get hurt.This man and his wife are so nice, and he's eighty five years old.

We all pay taxes so why are we going through this?

Thank You
Carmen

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Parents can do more for their children Thurs August 7, 2008

Parents, I could just write about the violence in Chicago. Why things that should be done are not done. But kids are getting killed every day and that is very important concern for me.

Parents your kids look to you for everything. You are the parent and you should be the one in control. Who is the boss in your house? Sometimes loving too much can make you lose control.

When my son was seventeen he did not like me coming in this room, so one day he asked, "Mom, I need a lock on my bed room door." I ask him do you pay rent? He answered no. I said you know son this is my house and that is my room and I don't need a lock. Kids will try you to see if you will check them and they want to be checked. That shows you love them.

Preparing your kids to leave home is your job as parents. If they don't know how to cook, shop for food, and pay bills, how do you think they can make it in the real world? I have heard kids say many times I am grown. Well being grown means being on your own paying your own bills.

All my kids left home when they were eighteen.

Thank You
Carmen

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Keeping our kids safe, Wed Aug 6, 2008

I wish I had the answers to world hunger, global warming and terrorism, but I don't. I can only try, with your help to come up with a solutions on how to keep our kids safe.

We seem to think that life is suppose to be easy but it's not. From the beginning of time parents have struggle with their kids. My grandparents struggled, my Mother struggled. I struggled, and my kids are struggling. Parents will always need to work hard to come up with an answer.Do you know that you are smarter than your kids?

For examble, if you tell you kids they can not go out until they clean their rooms, and they go out any way what do you do? Fuss and cuss?Nooooooo. Beat them with the broom?Noooooooooo. First always let your kids know the consequence of his or her action. Then Hit them where it hurts. No money, No T.V., No Internet and stay in the house. That will really hurt them. Make them tell you where you can fine them if you need to.Make them check in with you every couple of hours.

As parents we work to feed our kids and give them a place to live. We must work just as hard to keep them from getting killed.

Thank You
Carmen

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Tuesday August 5, 2008 9:20 PM: Daley should take Governor's help

Governor Blagojevich, told Mayor Daley that the violence in Chicago is out of control, He would send in the national guard, if needed. The Mayor said , We don't need any help. If you watch the news in Chicago they talk about gun violence every day. Kids get killed sitting on their front porch, riding the bus, walking down the street. I see people on the South and west side marching against gang violence. I have a poster in my window that says please don't shoot me i want to grow up .

The Mayor lives here, why is he letting this go on in his City?

I was talking to a store owner yesterday. He told me some gangs were on the street fighting and he called the police. They never showed up. Hours later, after the fighting was over, he called back, and was told he could file a complaint. He did.

We need your help to stop the violence. Please vote if you don't fell safe in Chicago.

Thank You
Carmen

Monday August 4, 2008 10:45 PM: Parents need to learn more about their kids

I find most people do not take the time to find out any thing about kids.

They might say they are just bad. But the Truth is they need, just like we dothey need love. they need education, they need physical fitness, and they need something constructive to do with all the energy they have. Kids need to know someone cares about them. They need education, some teens I know can't read. So when they become of age they drop out of school.

We want our kids to be leaders not followers. They need physical fitness to keep their bodies strong and healthy.because when children become obese they have low self esteem, which might cause them to be bullied or bully other. Kids have lots of energy. They need to have something positive to do with their time. That is what we all want. Well it just doesn't happen. We need to listen to our kids. They need us.

Please let me know if you have any constructive solutions.

Thank You
Carmen

Monday, August 4, 2008

Sunday, August 3, 10:30 PM: Some down time in gang violence

Today is Sunday August 3, 2008
Time: 10:30 PM
For the past three days there has not been any shooting in my block.

But two blocks away a boy was sent to the hospital, because of gang violence.

I turned the TV on and saw that on the west side of Chicago one young man was killed
and a teen was shot in the head and killed. We are all asking the same questions what is the City doing about it?

Even though violence happens all over Chicago, it happens mostly on the South and West sides of Chicago because that is where most of the Section-8 People were relocated.

My children are very worried about me. But I can not sit back and hope it goes away. I want my grand kids to grow up.

Thank You
Carmen

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Saturday August 2, 2008, 4:57 PM: We have to do something

The reason I write these post evey day, is because of my concern.

The people I talk to are so angry about the crime and violent in Chicago.

They tell me no one cares about us, so we must protect our selves. I know that is not the answer. It's a shame people can not sit down and solve problem without becoming physical

We see out teens getting killed every day with gun violent we need to step up to the plate. Our kids are our most precious possession. Please vote.

Is your neighborhood safe?

Carmen

Friday August 1, 2008 7:57 PM: Sister decides not to visit me

My sister and her family planned to visit from out of town this weekend, but they had to cancel their plans because of the violence in Chicago. That made me very sad. But the good news is we did not have any shootings last night. That make me very happy. Now, my family calls every day to check on us.

I would like to thank the people at the Southwest News-Herald who gave us this opportunity to have our voices heard. Remember, power lies in numbers. We can make a different. Let us know if your think your neighborhood is safe.

Thank You
Carmen

Friday, August 1, 2008

Thursday, July 31, 2008, 8:35 PM: I love this city, that's why I'm writing

You know I love Chicago. I raised my four children in this neighborhood. Two of my daughters graduated from college and now work for the city. My youngest daughter graduated from high school and went in to sales. My son graduated from high school and went into the Navy. I am very proud of my children.

I am not proud of Chicago today. This was a great city. So what is happening to it?

Even though we have worked hard to get and keep our property, I would sell my house if I could. But you know the housing market is not good. The home owners I talked to are fed up with this everyday violence. Their families are being hurt. Their houses have been shot at and their car windows are being broken. We are being pushed into a corner.

I want to scream for somebody help us. But there is no one there.

Carmen